“BRINGING HOME THE BACON”
Press Reviews - Library Journal June 1, 2005
Pappenheim, Harriet & Ginny Graves.
Bringing Home the Bacon: Making Marriage Work When She Makes More Money.
Morrow . 2005. c.210p.
ISBN 0-06-074754-4 . $24.95. PSYCH About Harriet
While titles on working women and dual-income families abound, this book delves into the emerging trend of women as primary financial providers. According to psychotherapist Pappenheim and journalist Graves, this situation arises in one out of three marriages. Among the 100 men and women they interviewed are couples who planned for the woman to be the primary breadwinner as well as those who reached the situation by default (i.e., through layoffs). Instead of passing judgment, the authors offer engaging vignettes from the interviewees illustrating attitudes and behaviors that nurture or tear down this complex relationship. They begin by covering expectations men and women bring into such nontraditional arrangements and move on to their struggles over the division of housework, parenting roles, sex and intimacy, and financial decisions. Finally, they discuss how these marriages—particularly those with stay-at-home or very involved fathers—can positively influence a child’s development. Though aimed at a female readership, the book offers relationship-building advice that can be applied to all partnerships, regardless of economic circumstances. Recommended for public and academic libraries.—Marianne Le, Everett Community Coll. Lib., WA